Self-Care Sunday

Self-Care Sunday: Take Yourself to Dinner

Ah, here we are to Sunday again.  Hopefully we will just get the post in before midnight, and we can still count it as Sunday.  A little late this week, but I still want to be loyal to my series.  So, here we go.

Tonight, dear reader, I had a date.  A long overdue date, and one that I was really looking forward to.  It was a date that I should have gone on a long time ago, and one that I constantly put off.  I had a date with myself.

I eat by myself most of the time.  My roommates and I eat dinner at different times, or I take my lunch breaks alone so I can decompress from working, even on the weekends I don’t often eat with people.  However, even still, taking myself out to dinner is a completely different thing.

All weekend, I have been craving Applebee’s, but I couldn’t get someone to go with me.  So, I decided that I would take myself to dinner and use the time for reflection and peace.  With me, I took along Jamie Tworkowski’s If You Feel Too Much, a book that I have been yearning to read since I bought it almost 2 years ago.  And tonight, the time that I had set aside to spend with me, I thought would be a perfect time to read it.  While I can’t read a 200 page book in an hour (not for lack of trying), I already know that this is going to be a special book.  Jamie has an amazing story and an amazing spirit, and even just reading the 30 or so pages that I have, I can tell that it’s going to be a special book.

Be encouraged. Your heart is writing a poem on the world and it’s being turned into a thousand songs.

-Don Miller

The above is a quote from the foreword, written by Donald Miller.  Just one of those quotes that I want to write all over my walls for me to remember, mixed in with my other beautiful quotes.  If Jamie can inspire people to merely say these things about him, imagine what he has to say, and already, I am finding that out.

So, by now, you’re probably wondering why the heck I started off talking about taking myself to dinner and morphed into discussing a book.  I will tell you.  Because I was treating myself to dinner and peace, with a book that I wanted to read and taking some time that I had scheduled with myself.  It was long overdue, and I left it feeling refreshed and renewed.  I was taking the time to treat myself like a person, a person deserving of respect and care too.

  1. Treat yourself like a person
  2. Don’t be afraid of eating alone
  3. Do things that refresh you
  4. Remember that you and your body deserve as much respect as a stranger

Treat Yourself

Stay fearless, friends (3)

General, Life Talk, Self-Care Sunday

Self-Care Sunday: Being in the Moment

For my first self-care Sunday, I want to talk about the golf-cart ride my family and I took last night to see the sunset on the island.  We live on a beautiful island in southeast GA, full of palm trees and flowers, marshes and ponds.  Even though I may have moved out of my parents’ house, I still come back home every once in a while for dinner and the occasional golf cart ride around the island, or even a place to sleep every once in a while when I need to get away from the stresses in my life or babysit the dog (who doesn’t let anyone in the house but her immediate family).  While my relationship with my parents has improved exponentially since I moved out (though we still have our moments, believe me), I never realized how it can important for my self-care as well.

Riding around the golf cart tonight hunting for the best views of the sunset, I was struck by how beautiful God’s work really can be.  The amber light bathing the world was breathtaking, and all the wilderness in between the golf courses is always amazing; I just don’t always give it enough credit.  I don’t spend enough time enjoying the moment when I’m out in nature; I spend more time checking my phone for likes on my latest Instagram post or whether or not that guy I like texted me back rather than focus on what I’m seeing and how God is working in my life right then.  And it’s time to look up.

So today, I want to talk about being in the moment, enjoying the world around me and how spending time being present can be the best thing sometimes.  Despite all the pictures I took last night, I felt like, for the first time in a while, I was being present in the moment, and enjoying the way the sunset light bathed the world, and how being with my family made me feel legitimately happy and filled with love.  I spent time simply appreciating what I was seeing and what God had given me, and admiring the beauty around me.  Just 45 minutes in a Saturday, and I feel refilled and refreshed.

Check out a few sunset pictures:

After looking at such a beautiful thing, I started thinking of some new rules for me to live by, which I thought I’d share with you all.

A few new rules for me to live by:

  1. Look up from those screens.  Take the time to take in what’s around and realize that God is out there, every day, just begging for me to come back to His love and realize that He is sending me signals every minute of the day.
  2. Breathe.  Too often, I am moving around at a breakneck pace, always trying to find where I go next.  Never stopping to breathe, never stopping to realize that I’m moving too fast or that I might be putting too much pressure on myself.
  3. Remember that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.  Even if everything seems to be going wrong, life is stressing me out and all the odds seem to be stacked against me, I need to remember that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be.  There is no harm in stopping to enjoy a moment, breathing and feeling like, at that moment, God wants me to stop and enjoy what’s in front of me.
  4. Take a picture to remember the feelings.  Don’t be afraid to take one picture to remember the things that I’ve seen and to hold on to the feelings from those moments.  Take a look at those pictures when I’m feeling sad and lonely, and remember how full I felt full and complete.  I want to remember those feelings and know what caused them, so when I am pursuing the wrong path to happiness, I’ll remember.

There are a lot of things that I could focus on in my daily life.  But, it is also important to take time and enjoy the little moments, the ones that pop out every once in a while, the ones that beg for a full immersion in them to truly enjoy them.

Don’t pass up those moments, dears.  God is talking.

Stay fearless, friends (3)